|We are all accountable because each of these behaviors creates our society. Thoughts travel at the speed of light. Whether you say it or just think it, that thought is absorbed by universal energy and has an effect on everyone.
We are so fixated on doing things better than everyone else, we’ve forgotten how to BE with each other. This isn’t a gun problem or the Presidents problem.
This is OUR problem.
If we have any hopes of eliminating violence like this, we must heal our souls and the souls of our children. Our community is in despair and we must learn that suppressing and ignoring our emotional body, by disconnecting from our internal wisdom, is the antithesis to eliminating violence. We are so scared to process through our suppressed hurts, that we lock ourselves out of our own bodies. We lose our ability to listen to our internal guidance system, yet the body has to release these feelings one way or another. Sometimes the release comes in form of disease, sometimes in form of losing our jobs, marriage, friendships, and sometimes the release comes in form of deadly acts against others.
We have become a society that pretends to be well, and in reality, is suffering deeply. If you need evidence, just turn the news on. Our houses are fabulous, and our bodies riddled with disease. Our cars are luxurious, and our hearts shackled in pain. Our diplomas plentiful, yet our ability to give and receive love is absent. Our closets are full of nice clothing and shoes, and our words are cunning and curt. Our outward appearance is perfect, while our inside world crumbles to pieces.
So what do we do now? Here’s what I suggest:
If you feel badly about yourself, get help. If you feel stuck, lost, unmotivated and totally defeated, call a coach, a therapist, a Dr., a religious leader, read Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach. Get help fast! If you feel stuck in the past and know you are carrying years’ worth of old pain and resentments, get help!
If you think your child isn’t watching your every move or listening to your every word, you are mistaken. They will either be just like you or polar opposite; neither of which are a powerful position. This is what’s called a default position.
Be kind to everyone, including yourself.
Be loving, to everyone, starting with yourself.
Know you are enough and worthy of love and belonging.
How will our children learn to heal their own souls if they are watching us? There is a better way. It’s not the fastest, most pleasant or least painful, but it is the one with the largest rewards and so worth the journey!
It’s up to us. You in? I am. Now.